When I was expecting my first child, I read everything I could get my hands on about pregnancy and childbirth. My loved ones gave me volumes of advice as well, which often ran counter to what the books said and what I had come to believe from a lifetime of living in the UAE. Instead of making me feel empowered and capable, the advice left me feeling ashamed, confused, scared, incapable, and really, really down. I found myself constantly responding to people's recommendations by saying (and sometimes yelling) " THAT'S NOT WHAT THE BOOKS SAY!" Hence, the title of the book. , , This book is meant to give insight on how you should use your own intelligence to apply the advice that works for your own lifestyle and say, " No thanks!" to the well-intentioned advice that doesn't, whether it comes from books, strangers, or loved ones. Because when it comes to parenting, love and happiness flow most freely when you follow your heart.